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Finally, A Lollipop Update That Works On Innjoo One

item_XL_8109461_7914741All through 2015, a string of Android OS Lollipop updates were released for the Innjoo One 3G phone. While the updates worked on a few phones, for most, there were severe bugs that caused bootloops.

Finally, an update that works has been released but not by Innjoo but by an individual who ported the 12.1 version (Lollipop 5.1.1) of the open source Android operating system, Cyanogenmod, to Injoo One 3G.

Details and installation instructions for this update can be found here

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Hack Tutorials

The Best Data and Voice Deal For Any Mobile Network In Nigeria

You can only enjoy this cost saving tip if you are subscribed to the Globacom Mobile Network. If you are not, after reading this tip, you may consider if it is worth your while to join the network.

HACK ALERT!

This article contains a reference to a mild hacking technique.

  1. You will need to change the IMEI of your phone to that of a Blackberry phone. The technique was discussed in an earlier post. Works best on phones with MTK processors. The best tool to use for changing your IMEI is MTK Engineering Mode android app, especially for owners of Tecno phones who have difficulties changing their IMEI using Mobileuncle MTK Tools. NOTE THAT YOU NEED NOT ROOT YOUR PHONE TO DO THIS.
  2. Subscribe to Globacom’s Glo Bumpa plan. The plan guarantees you a 200% bonus on every credit you load and is valid for as long as 21 Days. Calls are at 50k/s to any network. Not valid for International calls though. It is advisable to use physical recharge cards as virtual recharges do not seem to offer this benefit.

Here is how it works;

Say you load a card with value N1,000.00. Immediately, you get N2,000.00 for voice calls in your promo account, while still retaining the initial N1,000.00.

The N1,000.00 can go towards your BIS data plan. You do this by sending comonth as a text message to 777. You get 3GB of data for your effort. The data is valid for 30days, though you can subscribe as many times as you wish, while accruing voice credits along the line, thanks to your glo bumpa subscription.

Now the word is out.

 

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Gadgets

Innjoo – Service Par Excellence

Between June 1 and June 7,2015 Jumia had what it called its “Megathon”. Specific mobile phone models from selected manufacturers were sold at 50% off its retail value.

innjoo-one-gold_v8nhIt was an opportunity for me to pick up a phone for my workplace SIM. I decided on an Innjoo One – Gold that was being offered for N13,999.00 after applied discount.

I was not particularly thrilled with the specifications of the phone but who can refuse such a huge discount. I had noticed that, lately, most phones being churned out from Asia – particularly China – have very predicatble specifications; Google Android 4.4.2 KitKat (Don’t they know Lollipop’s been out for almost a year?!), 1GB/2GB RAM, Mediatek Processor (usually MT6592) with 16GB Internal Memory.I ranted about this extensively on twitter the night after i took delivery of the phone.

Shockingly, just a few minutes after my rant and as if with a mind of its own, the phone slid off the table and landed face down on the ceramic tiled floor. I was speechless for the whole of 2 minutes. This was nothing short of a “Harakiri” that the phone just pulled on me. I quietly packed up the phone and went to bed to grieve over the loss.

Next morning i called Innjoo service center and was informed that i would be parting with N8,500.00 to replace the shattered screen. Wow! Screen replacement is going to cost me more that half of what i paid for the whole phone!

Took a dash there during my lunch break, was given a tally number on arrival. However, i did not spend more than 10 minutes before i was attended to.

Apparently, the model is a recent release and the customer service lady expressed her doubt on the availability of a replacement screen.

“Can you give me a minute to speak with my supervisor?”, she asked.

Damn! I was already thinking in my mind how this was going to play out;

“Sorry we don’t have a replacement screen at the moment. Do you mind leaving the phone with us and come back for it in, say, 3 weeks?” I had made up my mind to smash the phone on their floor if she comes back with such a response.

She was back a few minutes later and started, “Sorry we don’t have a replacement screen at the moment…”. Damn! Knew it! But she continued,”Do you mind if we replace with a new one? You will only be paying the same N8,500.00″

New one?! Really! Wow!

“Sure, sure” I responded excitedly “I don’t mind”

5 minutes and N8,500.00 later, i was out of the service center with a brand new Innjoo One – Gold phone.

A very happy ending to a rather sad experience. Innjoo, you get my vote for good service delivery.

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Gadgets Hack

Oh My God! It Works!

chuwi-vx3A while back, I was on a search for the perfect phone. A search that took me to the Far East where i finally settled for the Chuwi VX3, a premium grade Octa Core, 2GB RAM Chinese 7 Inch tablet.

Some may wonder how possible it is to mention “Premium Grade” and “Chinese” in the same breath. But surprisingly, believe me when i say this Phablet will trounce many of the popular brands you know.

This is not a review of this “Phablet”. However, you may read about its specs here and a good video review can be found at the end of this post.

Now to the gist of this story.

Most phone brands from Asia, China especially, are powered by chips made by a company called Mediatek (MTK). Think of Tecno, Infinix, Innjoo, Gionee, etc brands. You catch my drift? My Chuwi VX3 falls smack in the middle of these brands. They are all powered by Mediatek chips.

What makes this brand of chips unique is that they are a hacker’s delight. Depending on who you ask, this might be a good thing or a not so good one.

Perhaps the most useful hack i have stumbled on is the Blackberry IMEI hack. What this hack does is to change the IMEI of your android phone to that reserved for pre OS10 Blackberry devices. What that means is that your phone is registered on your mobile network as a Blackberry phone allowing you to enjoy cheap Blackberry Internet Services data rates on your android phones.

In Nigeria, the hack works best on the Globacom network where you only have to pay N1,000 for a 3GB data allowance. I read up the post from this dude on Geek.ng, applied the Blackberry IMEI hack on my Chuwi VX3 and guess what?! It works! It works!! It really works!!!

Globacom now recognizes my Phablet as a Blackberry 8300 Curve 🙂

 

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Clearance Sale: Netgear WNDR3400 Dual Band Router with NAS & DD-WRT Firmware (N12,000.00)

wndr3400The Netgear N600 Wireless Dual Band Router WNDR3400 supports true dual-band and offers fast wireless performance and long range. It has a useful set of networking features, such as Guest zone, network storage, traffic meter, and USB external hard-drive support for network storage. Also, it’s aesthetically pleasing and comes with an intuitive Web interface, all at an affordable price.

It has the stellar performance and features of a high-end wireless router and offers all-round great wireless performance on both the 2.4GHz and 5GHz bands with excellent range, especially on the 2.4GHz band.

If you’re looking for a well-rounded wireless router for your home and don’t want to spend much, the WNDR3400 is your only choice.

The DD-WRT Advantage

DD-WRT is an open-source alternative firmware for routers. Its software unlocks features that are not ordinarily present in Netgear WNDR3400. It is, unarguably, the best aftermarket router firmware upgrade around. It is a popular router firmware choice for hobbyists, homes, businesses and router manufacturers as well. Put simply, DD-WRT Turns Netgear WNDR3400 into a turbo-powered router.

Indeed, your router is only as good as its firmware. DD-WRT has been flashed on the WNDR3400 router in order to grant the user extra functionality, which hardware manufacturers seem reluctant to include in stock software.

Features

techspecs-wndr3400-diagram-photo-largeThe WNDR3400 is capable of simultaneously broadcasting Wireless-N signals on both the 2.4GHz and 5GHz frequencies. The 2.4GHz is the popular wireless band shared with other home devices such as cordless phones and Bluetooth headsets. The 5GHz band is somewhat more exclusive and therefore should offer better throughput performance. By being dual-band, the WNDR3400 supports virtually all existing network clients.

The WNDR3400 comes with a USB port for NAS function. The router supports hard drives formatted in both NTFS and FAT32 file systems. This means you can just plug in your current external hard drive with data already on it and share it with the rest of the network. The router supports Windows’ SMB protocol, which allows any computer in the network to access its storage using a network browser (such as Windows Explorer) without having any additional software installed. It also supports Macs and the shares will automatically appear in Finder.

The router restricts access to this NAS storage via password. You can set a password for read-only access and another for read/write access to a particular folder on the external hard drive. Once set, the restriction is applied to anyone wanting to access that folder. The router’s NAS feature can also handle other NAS functions such as FTP and HTTP. You can also set up remote connections to access the data via Internet.

Technical Specifications

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 How To Place Your Order

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Tecno Phones – Slowly But Surely Taking Over Nigeria

A few months back, i walked into a mobile phone store somewhere around highbrow Victoria Garden City (VGC) in Lagos (Nigeria) and requested for a particular model of the Tecno phone brand.

The words were barely out of my mouth when the store attendant – with an air of superiority – dismissed my inquiry with a “we don’t sell such phones here” response. True, because when i looked round the store, i could only see mid to high end phones from popular manufacturers like Samsung and Nokia.

I walked out quietly.

A few weeks later, I was in this same store but this time, in search of a case for my Samsung Galaxy Tab Tablet. To say I was shocked was an understatement. There, conspicuously displayed on the shelves of the store were a line-up of phone models from – not only Tecno – but other mid tier manufacturers like Infinix and a couple of other manufacturers that i can not readily recall.

So what gives? What has changed? Unfortunately, the pompous attendant was nowhere to be found for me to pose my questions to him.

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Tecno Phantom A+ : A “Real Life Use” Review

A QUICK BACKGROUND ON THE TECNO PHANTOM A+

Contrary to popular belief, Tecno Phantom A+ was designed by the Hong Kong based Japanese company, Alps Electric Company Limited, in collaboration with Tecno. Some key components of the Phantom A+ were manufactured by Alps.

Tecno Phantom A+ is not your regular Chinese Phone.

INTRODUCTION

This review is not going to be anywhere near an academic one, my aim is basically to assess the suitability of the Tecno Phantom A+ as a possible replacement for my old Samsung S3.

I will not bore you with any specs comparison, i guess we all know the better featured phone here. However, with all the features stuffed into the S3, what fraction of its “super powers” do we ever put to regular real life use? Well, let us find out if the features of the S3 is an overkill for the regular Joe out there.

ACCESSORIES

Okay, right out of the box, the first thing that struck me was the extreme similarity between the packaging containing the Tecno phone and that of the S3, same design down to the last detail.

The content of the Phantom A+ box were an earpiece, 8GB Memory card, a charger & PC cable combo, a Power Bank and a Flip pouch for the phone. The earpiece is of average quality, definitely the listening experience does not compare favourably with the common white Samsung earpiece but it is bearable, with fairly respectable bass output. Perhaps the most disturbing aspect of the earpiece and by extension, the 3.5mm earphone socket on the Phantom A+ is that they were made for each other – and no one else. The Phantom earpiece will not work (well) on any other device, and your regular earpiece will not work well on the Phantom.

The Power bank is not a substitute to mains charging. In fact, the Power Bank will not charge your phone to full charge but to about 70% capacity. My investigations revealed that to attain full charge for your phone, you will need a power bank with a higher capacity than the 2200mAh one that was shipped with this phone.

The PC cable is a bit flimsy, and i guess it may be the reason why it always take a while for my PC to access the drives on the Phone when connected. I replaced the cable with an old Blackberry cable and the response was faster.

The pouch does not strike me as one that would last a long time. Plastic with suede-like internals, the metallic colour of the front cover was a colour selection well thought out. I love it, feels Apple Mac-ish.

The Samsung S3 also came with a complimentary earpiece, MicroSD card and a Charger – PC cable connector.

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BATTERY LIFE

I consider myself a power user and this phone sees me through a day – conveniently – even with a bit of juice to spare at the end of the day. My daily routine consists mainly of frequent making and receiving calls, playing music and with 3G and WIFI on all day to power the myriad of internet based apps on the phone. For my wife, a full charge takes her through 2 days.

Additionally, the Power Bank and the miniature cable connector will conveniently fit into your shirt pocket. With this can give your phone a quick charge when you need it. The Power Bank also doubles as a flash light.

The S3, or any Samsung device at that, are not known for their long battery life. It is an exception if your Samsung S3 phone lasts a day, taking it through the motions that i take the Tecno. Infact, i had a charger stationed permanently in the office with another charger installed in my car. Battery life improved a bit when i purged the phone of Samsung’s bloated ROM and installed Custom Roms. Carbon ROM was my preferred choice.

TecnoAESTHETICS

Honestly, it is hard to decide which of the 2 phones looks finer. I am swayed to the Tecno Phantom A+ for total build quality. It definitely looks (emphasis on LOOK) like it has a more matured looking build, looks less plasticky than the all too obvious plastic materials used for the S3.

For the internals, i tend to pimp up my phone’s desktop with widgets. No performance lag of any sort on the Tecno, its 1GB RAM seems up to the task. To get the look in the image shown to the right, i always install the following apps on my android devices; Nova Launcher, Agenda, HD Widget

PICTURE QUALITY

Let us tip our hats to the S3 on this. Picture quality of the Phantom is quite ok but not comparable. It is not all about the “MPs”, higher Mega Pixels do not translate to better picture quality.

DUAL SIM

What can i say? No show for the S3.

INTERNAL MEMORY

You think the manufacturers of Tecno were generous with the 8GB memory card included in the package? You though wrong. This was meant to compensate for the low internal memory, 4GB.

The default installation drive for your apps is the memory card, with only the system files installed to the internal memory. This option is configurable.

Okay, call me an App junkie, i care less. At anytime, you will find more than 50 user installed apps on my phone. The phone has conveniently accomodated my excesses so far, even with enough space to spare.

GAMING

Out of the box, the Phantom A+ has 3 games pre-installed. Perhaps the most prominent and graphics intensive of the lot is Gameloft’s Asphalt Adrenaline 6, which plays flawlessly on the phone.

BBM CHAT

BBM for Android works flawlessly on this device as any other.

GSM RECEPTION

Highly subjective. Glo reception on the Samsung S3 was mostly unreliable. A little surprising that places that i had hitherto received shaky network reception fare better on the Phantom A+

SCREEN QUALITY

Unbelievable screen quality. The first thing that will strike you about the phone is how vividly the large 5.0 inch HD screen renders images. Not exceptional, especially coming from a S3 but definitely not a walk over either.

ROOTING & CUSTOM ROMS

I rooted the Phantom A+ the same night i unboxed it. A lot of resources are available online for this product, especially on nairaland.com. Custom ROMS are also available though i am not swayed to try them out yet as they do not offer convincing competitive advantage over the stock Rom. Also, the Roms are all Android OS 4.2.2 and not OS 4.3.1 or better still, Android OS 4.4 (KitKat)

PRODUCTIVITY

Document scanning using Camscanner is not as good as that of the S3, a throwback to camera quality perhaps. Scanned documents are however very passable.

CONCLUSION

Yes, i will not mind having a flagship phone from Samsung, perhaps the Samsung Galaxy S5 (Rumoured to be announced/released by February 2014) or the Samsung Note 4. However, ownership of any of these phones is strictly to satisfy my insatiable lust for gadgets and probably for bragging rights.

Obviously, the Phantom A+ is not the best featured phone out there but as far as functional phones go, the Phantom A+ definitely meets all my daily productive needs.

The problem with Tecno phones adoption in Nigeria is no longer about its durability but its affordability. Nigerians do not want to be viewed as being cheap, even when they can ill-afford the cost of a high end device. An average Nigerian would rather starve to put up a facade of affluence.

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I Sold My Samsung S3 Phone Today

Sold off my Samsung S3 [US Version] phone today. I had used it for about a year.

It was a tough decision to make as i had grown attached to the device and it did serve me well. But the fact is, i needed to move on. It had become a case of functionality and convenience over emotional attachments.

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I use two SIMs/Phones on a regular day, a work line and a personal one. Coupled with an android tablet, my usual day see me lugging all these devices around with me. Not much fun at all, trust me. I had decided a while back that dual SIM was the future for me and thankfully, the market for this class of phone is increasingly becoming vibrant. No better time than now to make a change.

Released in June 2012, the Samsung S3 is still a hugely popular phone and its listing is among the most viewed on gsmarena.com. Those that own the S3 do not see its successor, the Samsung S4, as being a worthy upgrade due to its minor incremental and largely unneeded additional features.

If it is any consolation, I did sell the S3 good, all N45,000 (US$280) that i asked for it.

Question now is, which phone do i use in the stead of the S3? Of course i know no dual SIM can touch the specifications of the S3 by a mile, but any dual SIM phone with decent specs will suffice for me for now, while hoping Samsung (or other manufacturers) will come out with better offers come 2014.

Below are the phones i am considering;

1. Tecno Phantom A+ vs Samsung Galaxy Grand

The Tecno brand has tried to redefine the perception the African market has about Chinese mobile phones. I got the Tecno Phantom A+ phone for my wife a couple of weeks ago. Only one word can summarize my experience with the device; Un-freaking-believable! (hope that qualifies as a word?). Sharp screen, very responsive and generous accessories (8GB card, memory bank, flip pouch). All for less than N35,000 – even at jumia.com.ng!

My major grouse with the phone is its limited internal memory, only 4GB.

The Samsung Galaxy Grand Duos shares almost similar specs with the Phantom A+ (love that name), even losing out in some specs but selling for much more, about N46,000! How much of this amount are we paying for the Samsung brand name?!

‘Nuff said, Tecno comes tops here!

Below is a comparison of some of the key specs;

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2. Tecno Phantom A2 vs Samsung Galaxy Mega 5.8

The Phantom A2 is not necessarily a direct upgrade to the Phantom A+, i will probably liken it to comparing the Samsung S4 with the Samsung Note 3. My personal opinion.

Compared to the A+, the Phantom A2 substitutes its screen with a 5.7 incher, the front camera with 1.9MP and the price with about N43000.

Definitely, the Tecno loses out on this one. Notwithstanding that the Galaxy Mega costs about N56000, no way i am going to shell out N43k for such miserly specs. Tecno needs to be careful, the brand is still not strong enough to command such prices. I suggest they stick to sub N40000 prices.

Check out the spec comparison;

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The results are in, definitely it is a Tecno on my mind. I have used and still own Samsung devices. Would be a nice idea to see if the other side is indeed greener.

My eyes are definitely on the Phantom A+, value for my money.

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Technology – Building A Generation Of Introverts

Introvert-twitter-birdThis would probably be a familiar scenario to many of us. You find yourself stuck in an elevator with a bunch of strange faces that you will rather not be in a confined space with. Usually, chatting up your your new acquaintances is an option that you will rather not take. Chances are that you will rather fish out your mobile phone and fiddle with it for the duration of the 30 or so seconds it will take you to get to your floor.

Sounds familiar anyone? Yes, i understand, elevators do make strange bed fellows.

Many people have now found succour in their phones as a way of covering up their fear of interacting with others. Nowadays, it seems many adults, particularly in the younger age group, fear the possibility of having to chat with someone else. So they make certain that they are cocooned from the rest of the world with their faces down, feverishly fingering their latest gadget, safe in the knowledge they will be uninterrupted and will not have enter the “strange” and scary world of civilised conversation.

This same set of individuals could be extremely popular on the various social media platforms, usually with a long string of “followers”. Did i hear someone say “Online extroverts, offline introvert”? Understandably, it is probably easier for anyone, introvert or not, to be more daring with comments when online than anywhere else. Nigerian social media activists quickly come to mind.

Anytime i scroll through the comments on my twitter timelime (@diaryofageek), i am tempted to think that some of the people i follow actually live in “Twitter Land”. 24-7, they are always online, never short of comments and wise cracks to dish out. Would they be as daring or sociable when you meet up with them one on one? Mostly not the case.

It would be safe to assume that your garrulous social media pal will not be as chatty or extrovertial whenever, if ever, you both meet offline.

With extracts from Computeractive India Magazine – October 2013

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Lifestyle

The Fall Of The Family

There was a time when the rearing of our children was an act to be envied. It took the whole community, neighbourhood and the world at large.

If I misbehaved in school and had the misfortune of being flogged or given a dirty slap by a teacher; the incident had better not get back to my parents, especially dad! Dad viewed the punishment meted out as a slight to his parenting and oh, boy did I pray for heaven at such times!
Where I lived was demarcated by trees; we had no walls. This art of living fostered good neighbourliness. That wasn’t all; I was surrounded by at least four other mothers! Woe betide me if I was rude, lazy, disobedient or stubborn; the report didn’t have to get to my mother; either one of the four “mothers” would deal summarily with me!

Those were days of the smell of fresh bread baking, vanilla infused cakes or chocolate cookies permeating the air and our lunch boxes waiting to have them lovingly laid. During lunchtime, depending on the setting, we would (siblings and neighbours kids) sit down together to laugh, eat and even fight.

In as much as our parents were career oriented they had time to discipline. They did it so well most especially my mother. I would whisper to a relative or two my plans of escaping from this woman who obviously was not my mother. She would wake us up at 5.30am to sweep the expansive compound we lived on. Note, it had been swept neat by the gardener the previous day. I made my first “meal” eight. I was however, reprimanded for the match stick that ended up in my father’s mouth! Hey, it was my first attempt.

Birthday parties were a treat! We got to wear our Sunday best; those ballerina like dresses with lovely sashes as belts, complete with lace ruffled socks. The party songs were mainly nursery rhymes or just children sing-along songs.

Now fast forward to what we have these days. If your neighbour (in this sense, it just means someone who lives next door strictly), makes the mistake of trying to correct or reprimand your child; all hell will break loose; the teacher will get a beating from Daddy the Bull in front of the students, party times are mini clubs for kids-trashy inappropriate dressing; especially the girls at that young age, hairstyles that encourage early balding and was a torturous period for the girl, adult music danced to in such sexually suggestive ways it will shame your attempts! These parties have become self serving as it is all about the parents and their cronies. The financial lengths parents go to throw a “one in a kind” party, is embarrassing. The househelp/nanny/housemistress/housegirl/maid that during my time, took instructions from mummy and served mummy, now not only has Madam, but her brood as well to work for and take instructions from. Kai!

Portrait of Happy Family In ParkThe moral fibre of any society is foisted on the woman. Don’t argue. That is how nature determined it – the man is expected and required to fend for his family, he will spend long hours away from the home trying to create a comfortable life for his family. On the other hand, the woman being the vessel and the nurturer is expected and now more than ever to stay at home and nurture the children up till when they have wings to leave the coop. While some will argue that it sounds idealistic, others will fume stating equal rights and the emancipation of the woman, others will demand that a woman has dreams, desires and aspirations to fulfil; last but not least, this last group will question which part of the world I live in!! because as sure as hell, if I lived in Africa, no one has to tell me the issues the average woman faces.

Mummy is working equal hours as dad, so the kids are left with the nannies that need schooling and coaching too; the nannies are furnished with a tv, watching nothing except Africa Magic and Channel O. The kids are given everything they ask for and are not supervised: they can’t be-mum at work! When she does, she’s so tired she doesn’t have the mental presence to deal effectively with her kids. Anti-social behaviour is developed; their friends are their teachers and source of inspiration. TV and social network platforms are their mantra. Once the monster is formed and unleashed we blame everything and everyone (God included) except ourselves. Sexual promiscuity, permissiveness and perversion, abuse of drugs (remember the Codeine phase), smoking,(as if it is cool to have the stale smell of tobacco on your breath, hands and body), binge drinking(alcoholism), laziness, total bankrupt moral code(just look to the schools-cheating, bribing teachers, colleagues to pass exams), stealing, drug addiction(visit rehab centre Yaba, they have a waiting list), terrorism has recently been added. You will be shocked to know how early our kids are engaged in these acts.

We are wondering what happened to our families. This is what happened. We copied the West and got an aberration. Ok partly. We abdicated our responsibilities because we have to make ends meet. Then employed a retinue of servants do to everything-cook, clean, and rear the kids! Wondering, why that sounds familiar.

Don’t get me wrong-it is okay to get help to carry out the cooking and cleaning but not when it becomes the primary responsibility of the hired hand. It is the reality of our society. I hate it when I see an 8 or 9 year old (a baby) brought to take care of another baby!

When I see a woman driving on the sidewalk with three kids inside, I wonder what else she is planning to teach them; since she has just taught them impatience, shunting, indiscipline and breaking the law!!!

Rearing a human being to become a valuable contributing member of society that can function as an individual is one of the toughest jobs in the world with no magic formula. It is also one of the most rewarding. However, with everything in life there are basic steps adhered to that puts you are on the path to achieving a positive result. There are some individuals, for lack of a better word to use; I would say are destined to fall by the way side no matter your best efforts.

When a stay at home mother states that she is; she is viewed with pity; when you take your next leave please be a full time stay at home mom-don’t cheat. Let’s know if they are to be pitied or given a thumbs-up.

Career and businesswomen or a woman working to help support the husband have to know when to start, stop, and continue. Find a balance; simply put. Below I have written a few simple pointers: im no expert but they came to mind.

Cultivate a healthy respectable relationship with your child. I’m not talking about the Oyibo (white man) kind of parent-child relationship where the child ends up calling parent by name and putting themselves on the same pedestal as you. Know their friends and their parents. Interact with them, teach them to honour, respect themselves, their bodies and other people and their bodies. It is very important. Know where to draw the line with material acquisitions for them. Look, X’s father can buy the whole of the world for him but does that mean you should?? Must they have cell phones at 9? An Ipad at 11, designer clothes from babyhood to the point the kids even know?? Tvs in their room complete with cable tv, must have summers. Did you have all these things at the incubation of your life? They have everything and don’t know the value of anything. When they grow up they expect that life will hand them everything on the same gold platter!! Alas, they are in for a rude awakening! There is a time for everything.

Teach them the value of hard, honest work.

Build their self confidence and esteem. Let them know it is okay to be different. Try and spend at least one hour of quality time with them (one on one) everyday. This calls for major adjustment and sacrifice but the reward is eternal.

Spare the rod and spoil the child still rings true. I have told you; no listen to Oyibo o. See what has become of their youth!! And it is gradually happening to ours. The key is moderation, timing and creativity in discipline. I hated mum’s wooden spoon on my knuckles which was reserved for the gravest of offences.

Mums, sorry but we will need to make that sacrifice. Society and even religion blames the mother for a wayward child but praises the father for a good child!!! Not fair in my opinion, but it goes back to the roles nature has apportioned to us. You must learn to love both the good of the child and the bad! That’s the only way you will gain the confidence of your child. After all don’t you make mistakes? Affirm, encourage, support, listen, seek to understand, be firm and consistent in discipline. Also have a common front with your spouse/partner during discipline and decision taking.

Pray for and with your children.